Why is that some female’s beat themselves up about it, when really it’s the male’s fault. I have known of females who have try wierd and wonderful things to aid in changing it when again it’s mainly down to the males.
I’m talking about the gender of our children of course and not intercourse!
I have 2 perfect boys, and as my youngest little critter was handed to me for the for the first time(which happens to be 2 years ago on Saturday, somebody pass me the tissues) I was secretly over joyed to have had another boy.
My husband once the initial shock of the early and fast delivery(3 weeks early, 59 minute labour), I stood back and physically watched the disappointed in his face happen.
He had wanted a little girl! He wanted to break the family’s tradition! As far back as anyone in their family remembers and census’s read women have only ever been married into his family. The couples then went on to have boys, only ever boys.
I on the other hand, I was looking at all of the plus’ involved in having the same sexed child. The clothes and toys can all be recycled. The majority of their youth can be spent doing similar activities, instead of one at dancing and one at football, very clicheish I know however these where my thoughts and nearly 2 years later and they haven’t changed.
Don’t get me wrong the allure to have a girl is there, it’s the unknown to me. If I was in the financial situation to have another child, it would be for wanting another child to add to our brood though. I would still wait the entirety of my pregnancy before finding out what sex the child is and feel blessed once it had happen regardless of sex.
But why is it that we care so much in the first place about the sex of our children? Should it not just be a case of being blessed with the knowledge that we can bare children and that they are healthy? The first words out most people’s mouth after a 20 weeks scan is, so did you find out the sex? What are you having? According to statistics 47% of first time parents now find out the sex of their children! have we forgotten what we have our 20 week scan for? Its is to find out abnormalities. I have strong feelings about this scan because what happen in G’s 20 week scan.
What are you thoughts on finding out the sex of your unborn child/children? If you found out, why? If you didn’t, what were your reasons?