I will start this blog by stating “Yes I am jealous, jealous beyond belief that people get copious amount of help from grandparents with their children and I don’t” so you now can’t state that that bitter or a sour grape because I have already made the statement myself.
Right after my little declaration there I will proceed with my post. What is the role of a grandparent?
My boys are lucky enough to have 8 grandparents ranging from a 91 year old Great Great Grandma to a 45 year old Grandad.
From reading my blog most people will know that I was only 19 when giving birth to G, so with both sets of grandparents still working full time I always knew that we wouldn’t get a huge amount of help from them childcare wise.
I am a grafter always have been always will be, I currently work 2 jobs and hubster does shifts. Do we get an ounce of help from grandparents , no not a scrap.
Yes when I had G they were great but I can count in 1 hand how many childcare reason days that they have had my boys. I wouldn’t mind really but the in laws are teachers yet holidays and social life always seems to be more important.
Now don’t get me wrong I adore my boys, the fact that I can now be their full time carers but yet get paid for the privilege, is the best feeling and I feel vey blesses to be able to do this.
However I can’t help but feel my boys are the ones that are truly missing out. Granted I have never had the best relationship with my mum so she only sees the boys maybe once every 2 months. Yet the in laws who live on the same road can go a fortnight/3weeks before spending any time with them.
It really upsets me, I remember when I was pregnant with R my FIL turned around and stated that they have G enough and that MIL sees G every day in school so she does see him.
I know where this has all come from last Friday it was my wedding anniversary and they wouldn’t give up the Friday night plans ( go out for dinner then share a bottle or 2 of red wine with friends, like they do every single sodding Friday) to baby sit our boys for us to the cinema, then Saturday was R’s 2nd birthday yet my FIL thinks scouts is more important so went to a meeting over seeing him on his birthday.
I am just so angry at the moment and feel so far apart from grandparents that I can’t help but feel well if your not going to make he effort then why should I bother, I do enough.
So when your LO are spending one with grandparents feel blessed because not all people get it.